Success breeds confidence, women demand confidence, but you have none…

Oh dear, what to do, what to do? (Sigh)

You will have to undoubtedly learn the phrase, “Fake it til’ ya’ make it.” The first kiss can be a deal breaker if you mess it up.

You must go for the first kiss strong, confident, and intentionally…

Or do you? Here’s a little workaround-

This is called a “kiss close“. Close is taken from the world of sales, as in “closing a sale”. Credit for this goes to a guy named Mystery and it’s a classic.

Let’s say the time has come, you think you’re getting all the signals and it’s time to “make the move”

You simply ask, “Would you like to kiss me?”

There’s 3 answers to this on her part; Yes, No, and variations of Maybe (Trust me, they actually DO say “maybe”)

If she says yes, kiss her.

If she says, “Maybe,” ”Why?”, “What do you mean” or “I donno” it means yes, but she’s shy.

So you say, “Let’s find out…” *kiss*

I suggest you make it good, but be the first to pull away (Shows lack of neediness or in layman’s terms, “Oh goody, a girl is ACTUALLY letting me kiss her and I want it to go on and on FOREVER, I think I’m in LOVE and we’re going to have 2.3 kids and live in a big house and play bridge on Sundays with my Grandma.” (You get the drift, I hope)

If she says no, and ONLY if she says NO, you reply, “Well, I didn’t say you could, it just looked like you had something on your mind.”

(Don’t ask “Why not?”This shows low self-esteem.) She may say, “not yet” or “not here” and this means she is open to it but there is a logistical issue. Maybe her friends are close by, or she needs more gaming first since you just met and her “Anti-Slut Defense” kicked in (They don’t want to feel “cheap” so even though they want it…the wall may go up.

So you see? You’re eliminating rejection because instead of just going for the kiss and having her turn her head and give you the cheek, you’re testing to see where her head is at. It’s great for 2 reasons:

1) You aren’t asking if YOU can kiss HER. You’re asking if SHE wants to kiss YOU.

2) If she says no, it’s much easier to save face. You’re re-framing it as a miscommunication on HER part.

There you have my “First Kiss Tip” and I hope it gets you excited about things to come…